To Those Who Have Loved and Lost

Thank God it’s Friday!
I loved Fridays.
Not just about its “Joe’s” day, but kinda relieving that it’s the last day of work.
And I’m sick: migraine, slight fever and severe cold, whew!
I just wanna rest & relax & enjoy my new fone & unfortunately, my number as well…
As I wait til work’s over, I am feelin’ a bit melancholic and just couldn’t help but ponder on what Deanne had sent me tru gmail. It goes:



To Those Who Have Loved and Lost:

Anyone who has gone through the agony of losing someone she loves so much will still wish against all odds to have that love back again.
But, sometimes a love lost is a love gone forever.
No amount of hope can bring to life a relationship that just died a natural death.
Set yourself free.
Let your heart spread its wings and fly.

Remember, it may rain for 40 days and 40 nights, but still will not rain forever.
One day the pouring will stop and there will be plenty of branches where you can find rest.
One of these is where you will build your nest and start over again.
It's never too late.
Remember, you may find love and lose it but, "When love dies, you never have to die with it.”

Remember that you cannot be a redeemer all your life.

The best way to weigh a relationship is out in the test of fire.
You cannot be a sooner of your mistake forever.
Remember, we all fail and make wrong decisions but our blunders are meant not to bury us deep in misery but to teach us the valued lessons of life.

Loving is always a learning process.

With love, we learn how to care and sacrifice.
We learn to share and reach out.
We learn to be unselfish and give more than we can.

And when everything doesn't end well, we learn how it feels to fall, we strive to get back on our feet and move on.
This is where we learn that "Life doesn't end where our heartaches begin".

There is no future in a relationship of lies and selfishness.
It's true, there's life in love.
But, there can still be life even after losing love if you leave the past behind and let your heart heal and give you the chance to find yourself again.

The success of a relationship lies not only in the beauty of its beginning but in its
consistency.
Make a choice not on impulse but a decision based on a healthy balance of mind and heart.
Let us always remember that "Happiness is not a matter of destiny but a matter of choice.”

There comes a time in our lives when we chance upon someone so nice and beautiful and we just find ourselves getting so intensely attracted to that person.
This feeling soon becomes part of our everyday lives and eventually consumes our thoughts and actions.
The sad part of it is when we begin to realize that this person feels nothing more for us than friendship.
We start our desperate attempt to get noticed and be closer but in the end our
efforts are still unrewarded and we end up being sorry for ourselves.

"You don’t have to forget someone you love.
What you need to learn is how to aceppt the verdict of reality without being bitter or sorry for yourself.
You would better off giving that dedication and love to someone more deserving.”
Don't let your heart run your life, be sensible and let your mind speak for itself.

Listen not only to your feelings but to reason as well.
Always remember that if you lose someone today, it means that someone better is coming tomorrow.

"If you lose love, that doesn’t mean that you have failed in love.
Cry if you have to, but make sure that the tear washes away the hurt and the bitterness that the past left you with.

Let go of yesterday and love will find it’s way back to you.”
And when it does, pray that it may be the love that will stay and last a lifetime.

A woman on the rebound could easily fall for sweeping emotions and be made to falsely believe that she finally stumbled upon the right man when what she just found is only someone to cover up for the love she lost.
A man who makes promises with words and not with actions may never live up to fulfill them.
"It’s true that love can wait forever but it is crazy to stubbornly hope for someone who doesn’t even care or understand how we feel.”

Loving someone is never a sin.
It is what people do out of love that sometimes makes it all wrong.
The selfish desire to want that person is what makes it a sin.
Don't think only of your feelings for real love doesn't have a place for selfish people.

When there is love, there is always sacrifice.

When we love someone, we never easily give up on that person.

Even if we get hurt badly we always try to find a way to ease the pain and learn to understand and forgive.
Loving too much doesn't hurt.
It is when we expect this love to be reciprocated that we begin to seek approval and acceptance of the things we have done and when we are taken for granted and rejected, we curse the very same love that we once freely and happily offered.

"Don’t waste your time waiting for someone who never really cared about how you would have felt.
Open your heart again and give yourself the chance to find the person whou would make loving worth the pain and sacrifice.
Just like anything else, our love grows weak and extent.
Beyond that, it withers without any hope of recovery and soon dies".

God wakes us up in the midst of a storm to teach us a lesson.
He takes away people we love, so we can learn to value love itself.
He makes us cry so hard so we can see clearly when we
open our eyes.
He makes us bitter so we can realize that there is no genuine happiness if we think only of our needs and not of others.

Relationships built on jealousy and selfishness is doomed from the very beginning.
The hardest part of losing love is letting go and moving on.
Most of us cry endlessly over things that could have been but never will be.

"God allows us to experience pain to make us stronger and better persons.
He will see us through the most trying and difficult times in our lives and only if we put our trust in Him we can learn to find joy in our tears and happiness in our sorrows".

In many failed relationships, separation comes as the inevitable choice but moving on always proves to be twice as difficult as letting go.
Sometimes, the end of a relationship is imposed on us, but our choice to hold on is always beyond the control of circumstances.

Letting go is a decision that can never be dictated on us.
It is a resolve we make ourselves.
Acceptance is the key to a new beginning and time is the healer of all wounds.
Even if the storm casts its fearful shadow, there will always be light after our darkness and lonely moments.
There is always a hope for those who believe.
There is always a chance for those who try.
"Losing someone we love may not be a loss at all but a blessing because someone even more is yet to come".

There is nothing wrong in expressing our feelings to someone we love, but "we must always be sensitive to the signals that tell us when to rationalize and be sensible."
There comes a time in our lives when we would fall for someone who wouldn't be as interested as we are because his attention is focused on someone else.

There are many times when we love but don't get loved in return.

There are times when the sign ahead says stop but we still stubbornly head on.
We would say our love is unconditional, but if it really is, then we should never feel bad.
But why do we get frustrated when love turns sour?
Because we still subconsciously seek acceptance and assurance from the people we care about.

Being in love can be the most wonderful thing we could experience but if the feeling begins to consume our whole beings, then we have to stop and let our minds and not our hearts dictate our actions.

Only when we learn to accept our fate and understand the meaning of our failures we can truly go on with life without having to look back and cry over the things that could have been but will never be......



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"Of all the needs a lonely child has, the one that must be satisfied,
if there is going to be hope and a hope of wholeness, is the unshaking
need for an unshakable God."

- Maya Angelou, U.S. author, poet.
I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings, ch. 4 (1969).

True enough, right?